Something about love(YAP)

In recent classes, love has been a hot topic because of our syllabus and, of course, its close relations with us, who are at a love-searching age.

One of the most heated topics is why we need love. Biologically, it is human and most animal’s nature to be enthusiastic about finding a partner of the opposite sex at a certain age. It is why we can continue, generation by generation, on this planet. However, it is only human beings that have the feeling called “love”. You may argue that many animals show the behaviours that seem related to “love”, such as stay with their partner’s body and do not want to leave, etc. But I think this is just a kind of animal nature, it is quite different from what we call “love”. What we call “love” is a strong and complex feeling that is hard to explain in one or two simple way. But it could definitely be felt by every human being when it comes even if he did not know what the definition of love is or had never thought about it before. From my point of view, the reason is when we reach a certain age, the relationships between the same sexes would be different from what it was when you were young. We may feel like to talk to the opposite side. For me, I really feel that something I would like to talk with a boy when I was 10 years old is not what I want to talk with a boy now. Perhaps, now, it is like stones and water. Boys are like stones, if two stones get together, it is easy to pong! But girls are like water, stones are not likely to hurt or be hurt by the water. On the contrary, they can get along with each other.

Personally, I have never had a relationship. Although it is not fresh any more to have a girlfriend when in high school or even in middle school, and many of my friends truly did so, I did not feel like to be one of them. Probably I can attribute this to my family education, like many other Chinese families, that is, do not find a girlfriend before entering the university. But I believe the real reason is absolutely more than that. I have a theory: the one for me is not to find but to wait. I also believe in feelings and “Yuanfen”, a Chinese term which holds the meaning of fate but not exactly the same as fate. So I had never tried to find a girlfriend purposely. Another thing is
I do not know what to expect in a relationship and to what extent it will change my present life. Moreover, sometimes from my friends’ experiences, I found love is really complex and not always companied with happiness. All these reasons made me an, called by some of my friends, “lonely old man”. Of course this is just a joke to tease me on the fact I have not got a girlfriend.
So far, I think to be single is ok. But, definitely, I am not going to reject it when it truly comes. So, I prefer to define this state of “being waiting”. And I am sure, like Stefanie sings, “ the one whom I am waiting for is in the future that is not far away”. I also wish all those who are also waiting find the ones for them.