Saturday, May 2, 2009
Marriage and Love
Last week, we discussed much about marriage and love, and almost everyone participated in it very actively. Perhaps, it is so relevant to each of us that we put so much passion into the discussion. Now I want to express my own points of view on them. Many people advocate that love is the foundation of marriage and that the marriage without love is a failure. Firstly, I want to find out is what is the meaning of " love" here. Which does it mean, the special love between male and female or the common love just similar that between parents and children, friends, and teachers and students? This is very critical. It involves in the essence of the point mentioned above. The ideal marriage is based on the special love between male and female and they love each other and care each other, I think. However, the fact is that there is no such emotions between most of couples. It is usual that they do not hate each other , and then they get married, and live together and care each other but there is no "ideal love" as is described in the literature, and television serial and is imagined by most of the young. Such marriage, I am afraid, cannot be claimed as a failure. You may think they are unhappy in such marriage but in fact most of them are satisfied with their marriage and it is likely that their marriage lasts longer than that between couple professing there is true love between them.Marriage is the matter of livelihood not romance. Few people still love without any other concern when they are suffering from starvation. Love is important but it is not bread and we cannot feed on it. Survival speaks louder than love. It is frustrating but it is fact, and one that you will have to acknowledge. Sometimes, reality is just so cruel. Nerveless, I firmly support everyone seeking their true love. Wish them achieve their goals.
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To believe that one can have an ideal marriage is indeed a fallacy. No one can claim to have an ideal marriage as no one is perfect in this world. A couple may complement each other but this does not mean they have an ideal marriage. However a marriage can be a successful one if love is the foundation in a relationship. A marriage is not a marriage if love does not exist anymore between a couple because the outcome of love is really care and concern for one another.
ReplyDeleteLove and marriage are the eternal topic of human beings. One thing that I want to say is that both of them are beautiful and sacred. Once a great ideologist Bertrand Russell said that:"Three passions, simple but overwhelmingly strong, have governed my life: the longing for love, the search for knowledge, and unbearable pity for the suffering of mankind." And he put the love at the first place. I can see the importance of love for the whole human beings. Although we still don't experience those things, we can not lose the confidence for love and marriage.
ReplyDeleteAnd nothing in the world is perfect.