Make a choice

Episode 1
A:“If you were trapped on a deserted island, would you take a male or a female? ”
B:” I would take neither of them.”
A:” Sorry, but you have to choose one.”
B:“ Well, if so, I would choose a male.”
A:“Why?”
B:“ In such a plight, I don’t want to make a female part of it.”
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Episode 2
A:“ What kind of wife would you like to have? In other words, what would you like your ideal wife do for you?”
B:“ Before that, I think I should have to consider what I could do for my ideal wife.”
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The two episodes are collected from our class discussions. The answers are so impressive and sobering that I still have a vivid memory of it.

When one is given such questions, the more one considers is oneself. Take the first one question for example, there are no more than three kinds of answers. The first one is choosing a female while the second one is choosing a male. Most of the time, the people who give the first two kinds of answers would tell what they can do with their partners on the deserted island or how their partners can help them, such as, with a female around, one can talk with her to kill the time, or with a male around, one can build up a canoe as quickly as possible and so forth. As to the third kind of question, one may consult what kind of plight it is and decide whom to take with afterwards. This implies one’s caution and wariness when one has to make a decision. But to some extent, this also shows one’s egoism, because one is thinking of what kind of gender is more available to oneself under a certain condition.

I admire by the determinative answers (the first two answers) and the cautious answer (the third answers). But the point I want to mention is that we might as well think in a caring way when we have a make a decision. Take others first, even though we may be obsessed by complex relationships, even though we may still hurt a lot of people, at least we keep our loved ones in mind, they will see our sincerity and respect our choice.